reading thru your archive now that I’ve finally paid and as someone who also obsessively loves languages and fashion and constantly feels like I have no personality besides idiot in my non fluent languages this post as they say is GIVING
Ugh your brain 😭 choosing clothing in precise and deliberate ways in the same way I choose words to communicate as effectively as possible ideas that which are important to me. Pragmatism is an aesthetic choice in itself I think but only when it’s deliberate rather than forced. I think my inability to commit to one aesthetic reflects the multiculturalism I’m exposed to having been raised in a country with over 10 official languages. Maybe that’s too literal an interpretation
Currently learning Spanish and really connecting with your experience. Very beautifully said! I really love how you connect learning a language to speaking, esp as our clothing and the way we dress is a form of communication also. Really enjoying reading your writing.🫶🏿
I think a lot about the term sprezzatura, and this idea of conveying nonchalance in the way one dresses. Putting together an outfit intuitively but not trying to be perfect about it. Interesting enough I think it’s inherently impossible as an individual to work on achieving sprezzatura, rather it’s the other way around that people notice it in observing you.
It’s almost like in the act of trying to be nonchalant you are actually caring about it and negate the entire process. Pretty fascinating I think.
to answer ur q: i am trying to communicate that i am an ex goth, that i am in touch with the natural world, and that i have superior jewelry taste (easy)
i have a very funky chunky organic looking ring with a hole in it, my most prized piece which my bestie got for me in college.. definitely conveys a hard core / edgy yet artistic sensibility
i have mixed feelings about the straightforward gay signifiers like chain around the neck, white wife pleaser with no bra, etc.... as someone who’s plus sizeness gets in the way of being able to functionally signify my gender identity or lack thereof i kind of resent when things like this only work for the thin...
reading thru your archive now that I’ve finally paid and as someone who also obsessively loves languages and fashion and constantly feels like I have no personality besides idiot in my non fluent languages this post as they say is GIVING
Ugh your brain 😭 choosing clothing in precise and deliberate ways in the same way I choose words to communicate as effectively as possible ideas that which are important to me. Pragmatism is an aesthetic choice in itself I think but only when it’s deliberate rather than forced. I think my inability to commit to one aesthetic reflects the multiculturalism I’m exposed to having been raised in a country with over 10 official languages. Maybe that’s too literal an interpretation
Currently learning Spanish and really connecting with your experience. Very beautifully said! I really love how you connect learning a language to speaking, esp as our clothing and the way we dress is a form of communication also. Really enjoying reading your writing.🫶🏿
I think a lot about the term sprezzatura, and this idea of conveying nonchalance in the way one dresses. Putting together an outfit intuitively but not trying to be perfect about it. Interesting enough I think it’s inherently impossible as an individual to work on achieving sprezzatura, rather it’s the other way around that people notice it in observing you.
It’s almost like in the act of trying to be nonchalant you are actually caring about it and negate the entire process. Pretty fascinating I think.
to answer ur q: i am trying to communicate that i am an ex goth, that i am in touch with the natural world, and that i have superior jewelry taste (easy)
i have a very funky chunky organic looking ring with a hole in it, my most prized piece which my bestie got for me in college.. definitely conveys a hard core / edgy yet artistic sensibility
i have mixed feelings about the straightforward gay signifiers like chain around the neck, white wife pleaser with no bra, etc.... as someone who’s plus sizeness gets in the way of being able to functionally signify my gender identity or lack thereof i kind of resent when things like this only work for the thin...
THE BROWN MOCASSINS!!!!
I wonder how many of your readers are erudite enough to even follow your “ramble”.